Monday, September 1, 2008

The Wicked Stepmother

Well, if you had told me 10 years ago that I would be a stepmom, I probably would have laughed in your face and said, "yeah right". I wasn't even sure I wanted kids of my own, not to mention someone else's! It's not something you plan for yourself and certainly not something your parents plan for you. As a matter of fact, my parents were very concerned about the possibility of me marrying a man with children. And their concerns were justified. When I married my husband, I did NOT fully understanding the problems I would encounter, the hurt I would feel or the worries I would have for MY future family. But as the saying goes, "Love is blind". And so it was. I only knew that if God had put us together, He would take care of everything. I had faith. I'm not saying I was holier than thou and expected everything to be roses all the time, but I trusted that He would carry me. And He has, every step of the way.

I'll start with the decision to marry someone with children. When I was first presented with the thought of becoming someone's stepmom, I immediately thought of Cinderella's stepmom.
As I'm sure you all have seen the movie or at least read the book, Cinderella's stepmother was as wicked as they come. Her evil eyes plotting her next still gives me the creeps during the scene where it gets all dark and the only thing you can see are her eyes all evil and mean. The word stepmom does not come with a good feeling behind it. Every friend I had with a stepmom had something horrible to say about her. Things she said, did or wouldn't do. I had never known anyone that had a meaningful relationship with their stepmother. I had decided that I was not going to let the negative connotations stick to me. There was no way I was going to succumb to the stereotypical stepmom. I would rise above this because I knew that God expected this of me. I knew He had a reason for placing me in this situation. I would have never chosen this for myself, God chose it for me. And I'm still finding that He's revealing more and more reasons everyday.

1 comment:

ATs said...

And so it is. Love TRULY is blind. :)